Get a DIRECT copy of my book!

bookcoverFor the past few months, my book has been available on Amazon.  For some reasons, the book does not fair well on Amazon.  However, it seems to do fairly well when it’s sold through a book signing or left at my brother’s restaurant.

I would like to try something, a little different.  Have you heard of a company called Square?  They  provide low cost credit card processing and business solution for people like me. You can find out more by going to http://www.squareup.com

What does this means to you?  If you would like to order an unsigned copy of my book then you have two options.  You can go to Amazon and order my book, online.  On Amazon, you can buy a printed copy for $7.00 or an e-book for $3.99.

Here’s the links for the two versions:

 

There is a second option!  How would you like to order a book, directly from me?  I won’t be able to send you a signed copy, though.  You can reach me, at my  email address:  barry.brindisi@gmail.com  Put in the subject line that it’s a book order!  In the body, I will need to have two things.  Where am I shipping the book to?  How many copies?  My books are printed by CreateSpace and I have to consider shipping costs.  So, I am limited to the United States and Canada.

IMPORTANT:  If you  are ordering 1 to 4 copies then I will need to add a $2.50 Shipping & Handling fee. I will waive the fee for an order of 5 or more books.  The book will still be $7.00 per copy.

 

 

Slaying Your Dragons of Negativity

Would you like to read a book about slaying your “Dragons of Negativity”?  What am I talking about?  Am I planning to write a medieval fantasy novel? How about a book on overcoming negativity? Continue reading “Slaying Your Dragons of Negativity”

Considering Others More Than Self

Today, I am taking a “break” from the book related writings.  If you don’t know what I’m talking about, then look at the menu.  My book related posts can be found under the appropriate books.  Today, I’d like to invite you to something, new.

This morning, I got an email notification from Jeff Goins.  He is the author of a book called, “The Art of Work”.  Jeff is also the owner of his own blog, GoinsWriter.  Jeff had posted a very interesting podcast about the value of Facebook Live.

As a writer, I was quite intrigued. How can a platform for creating Live videos be useful for writers? Go listen to Jeff’s podcast. It’s called “Is Facebook Live right for me?” After listening, I thought I’d give it a shot.  Would you be willing to listen?

What is the topic? Did you read the title of this article?  As I considered my topic, an old story came to mind and it seems to fit the theme of “Considering others more than ourselves.”  What story am I going to share?  I am not going to tell you.  You’ll have to come watch the LIVE broadcast or the posted video.

WHERE: First, I have a Facebook Page called “Inspiration Point Blog” The link will take you directly to my Facebook page.  I’ve already uploaded a test video.

WHEN: Let’s aim for a live broadcast on Friday evening, at 7:00 pm.  By 7, I mean Eastern Standard Time.  I hope to see you there.  The broadcast will be for about 5 minutes, then it will  be uploaded to my Facebook page.  If you’re not able to make it, the video will still be available.

Just so you know, I have a hearing impairment and it will play a part of the story.  For me, it’s a little hard to gauge the volume of my voice. I will also try to speak slowly. With practice, I hope to get better.  Can I leave comments on your livestream?  Yes, you can leave a comment; however, I may not see it.  I will try to answer, after the broadcast.

Are you interested in joining me, on Friday, July 1st?  The broadcast will take place at 7pm (EST). 

Chapter 4: Come Out of Your Hidey-Hole (pt 6)

Part 6

So far, I’ve talked about forgiving other people and asking people to forgive us. Though challenging, it’s not the only area of forgiveness. I needed to ask God the Father to forgive my transgressions and sins.

Here is what the Bible says in John 3:16-17.

For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.” 

When I accepted the free gift of salvation, my sins were forgiven and I became free to have a personal relationship with God the Father through Jesus.  Am I free to act like a jerk later? No, I am not. Here’s what John says in 1 John 1:9

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

What about my feelings of shame and condemnation? Though I did forgive my tormentors, I still experienced strong feelings of shame. I can still recall the sense that it was acceptable and bore a feeling of helplessness. I could easily hear someone say, “You did something to deserve this treatment.”

I was the perfect candidate for the “Blame Game.”  Sadly, I actually did run into a group who practiced blaming the victim. It seems that they had a strange view of the heart of God the Father. Thankfully, God delivered me from such a group.

How did I break free from such a terrible yoke? Yes, I forgave my tormentors and that’s a good starting point. However, I needed an extra step. I had to forgive myself. In case you missed it, I was blaming myself for the troubles I experienced that terrible summer.  I was walking around with a strong sense of condemnation and an undeserved guilt.

I had to stop beating the crap out of myself. I believed a bunch of lies and I needed to stop. Jesus came to set the prisoners free and I was such a prisoner. He came to break off the shackles of shame and condemnation created by those who tormented me.

In time, I came to learn some simple truths that really helped me in the area of condemnation and shame. Popular culture says, “Stop beating the crap out of yourself. Forgive yourself and let go.” There are some merits to this line of thinking; however, you can only go so far in your own strength. Would you like to hear an alternative? In Romans 8:33-35, Paul says the following:

“Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God Who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus Who died—more than that, Who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?”

The above quote comes from the NIV (New International Version) and it is an appropriate translation. Did you notice the emphasis on “No one”? God the Father has declared His children, free and clear of any charges. Those charges include the ones that we bring against ourselves.  As Jesus is the One Who died and paid the price for us, the Son is certainly not the One condemning us. Did you catch the part about Jesus interceding for us?

Some time ago, a friend pointed me to 1 John 3:20-21. Here’s what John has to say:

“If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God.”

I have read the above passages many times. For years, I did not associate the above quote with the pain that I was going through. Thankfully, Jesus was already working on my heart and the Holy Spirit was helping me in the healing process.  In time, I came to discover that I am not alone. That’s an important step in coming out of one’s hidey-hole.

I can fully agree with Paul, when he says:

“No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him Who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” [Romans 8:37-39]

Did you notice that your past is not on the list? A product of self-condemnation is living in the past. Did you not know that Jesus came to set you free from the shackles of the past? Is it not time to cross over to the present and come out of your hidey-hole?

<- Chapter 4: Come Out of Your Hidey-Hole (pt 5)           TOC           Chapter 5: Altitude, Attitude ->


https://insppoint.files.wordpress.com/2016/03/bookcover-e1463690586841.jpg?w=863The above is from my first book, A Lesser Human: An Anthology of Overcoming. Are you enjoying what you’ve read? You can read the rest of it, by buying my book. It’s currently available on Amazon.

My book is available in both, print and for the Kindle platform.  You can buy your own copy of my book, by clicking on the link, below.

Chapter 4: Come Out of Your Hidey-Hole (pt 5)

Part 5

There is another chain that needed breaking called “the chain of unforgiveness.”  To break this chain, I needed to learn about forgiveness.  It’s easy to say “I forgive”; however, it’s one of the hardest things to do. Though I did forgive those people, I had to let go of the pains and the hurts that I was holding on to. I needed to surrender them to God.

For some people, it is not a one-time affair. In some cases, I had to struggle with letting go. For this reason, I kept going to Jesus and saying, “I do forgive these people and I choose to let go.” I had no problem in asking Jesus for help. The people who inflicted such treatments were not the only ones that I needed to forgive.

For one, I needed to forgive the people that hurt me. In this case, I am talking about the abuse I suffered in the summer of ’83. Did they deserve it? No, there is no justification for treating any human being like that. Their behaviors were shameful and evil.  I can assure you that Joe was dealt with.

Why would I forgive these people? Yes, the Bible does teach that I should forgive those who have acted wrongly against me. It is for a good reason. If I don’t choose to forgive people, then my heart gets weighed down by bitterness, anger and unforgiveness.  I’ve heard that these things can also affect your physical health and not just your emotional health.

The problem of unforgiveness gets worse. Guess who is not affected by your bitterness, anger and unforgiving attitude? It’s the people that you’re angry at. That’s right. It is totally wasted and you’re the only person suffering for it. Isn’t it time that you forgave that person?

In my situation, I chose to forgive those people and to let go of the anger, pain of humiliation and any bitterness. I surrendered it to God in Heaven. Is it easy to forgive someone especially in the case of abuse? No, it is not easy and I needed help in saying “I forgive Joe.” I can assure you that God was helping me the whole time. I can still recall the pain in my voice. Jesus was right there and helping me.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help in doing this very important step. I felt a need to forgive and Jesus supplied the needed strength. When you forgive someone, it’s really for your own benefit. If you’re having trouble, then I’d encourage you to talk with God about it. Yes, it’s okay to talk with a trusted friend, pastor or counselor, too.

If anyone is without sin, then let the person cast the first stone. It’s easy to point out the failings in other people; however, no human being is perfect. It’s hard to admit to our own shortcomings and I’m thankful for God’s help in doing so. Do you recall my talking about my old role playing group?

Some years ago, it was on my heart to call Mark. He was a member of my old group and a fellow Christian. I felt a need to forgive the guys in my group. As I talked with Mark, he pointed out that I needed to acknowledge my wrong behavior and ask for forgiveness. Mark was right and I did apologize for my own misbehaviors.

I could have used other examples; however, the above one is an easy illustration. Forgiveness is a two-way street. Yes, I needed to forgive certain members of the group; however, I needed to acknowledge my own faults and ask for forgiveness. It’s not always easy, for it requires humility, courage and prayer.

It requires humility and courage for one simple reason. You don’t know how it’s going to turn out. What if the person reacts in anger? What if the person doesn’t remember the incident? What if the person warmly hugs you and says, “I forgive you.” I have been on both sides and I can appreciate the effort.

 

<- Chapter 4: Come Out of Your Hidey-Hole (pt 4)   TOC   Chapter 4: Come Out of Your Hidey-Hole (pt 6) ->


https://insppoint.files.wordpress.com/2016/03/bookcover-e1463690586841.jpg?w=863The above is from my first book, A Lesser Human: An Anthology of Overcoming. If you enjoyed what you have read, then I invite you to buy the actual book. It’s currently available on Amazon.

My book is available in both, print and for the Kindle platform.  You can buy your own copy of my book, by clicking on the link, below.