When We Practice To Assume

The other day, I received an email from a friend. He’s really isn’t an actual friend; rather, the man is a YouTube entertainer. For several months, I’ve sent emails and tweets to this guy. I had assumed the friend was okay with it. Suddenly, I get the following:

Please don’t contact me or my family! Though you have good intentions; you have the execution of a bull in a china shop!”  I’m paraphrasing the actual comment. My friend was a lot more gracious than I am being. What did I do wrong?
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Overcoming My Father Wounds

Did you ever listen to something that stirs a strong emotional chord? On Monday, I was listening to Pastor Paul Booko of Riverside Church. The church is located in Three Rivers, Michigan. It’s Father’s Day and Paul is giving an encouraging message about being a father.

I would have politely listened and I wouldn’t have given it, much thought. Why should I? I’m not a father or spiritual father. Before I continue, here is a link to “Dad’s Fest“. It’s the message that I listened to on the Internet.

What happened? Why am I writing a story about fathers, the day after Father’s Day? The story starts when pastor Paul Booko mentions the father wound, at the beginning of his message. As I listen, a strong wave of painful emotions began rising inside me. Continue reading

The Typewriter

Did you ever go through something and asked, “Why am I going through this? Why do I have to take this blasted typing class?” For me, this class was fraught with frustration and difficulties. I hated it.

The four years of typing were a lesson in torture. My typing teacher didn’t help by saying, “Keep your eyes on the paper and not the typewriter!” I hated it! I was angry and frustrated with her. If the old IBM Selectric typewriter weren’t so heavy then I’d be tempted to do something stupid. Continue reading

Hey Godzilla! Tokyo’s Calling! NOT!

As a kid, I loved to watch the various Godzilla movies. I can still recall watching the original film, on television. Godzilla would walk through Tokyo and cause widespread destruction. What do you expect from an oversize lizard.

This was one character, I wouldn’t want to see angry.  If angered, Tokyo would often be on the receiving end. Godzilla was especially known for spewing out a fiery radioactive breath. Continue reading

Silence Is Golden

We have all been angry, at one time or another.  I certainly have and had to deal with someone else’s anger.  The challenge is knowing, how to respond.  Last night, a friend reminded me, of a story I had told earlier.  The story occurred about 20 years ago and a good illustration of a friend applying this verse from Ecclesiastes 3:7:

7 A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.

I, no longer recall the exact details but here is what happened.  At the time, I was involved with a fantasy role playing group.  We were sitting in the Student Center at Stockton State College; when Dave came and told of what happened.

Dave had gone to visit Frank, a member of the group.  According to Dave, Frank was furious about the antics in the group.  Dave could see that Frank was ready to explode and Dave’s speaking would only add fuel to the existing fire.

As the above verse says, there is a time to speak and a time to keep silent.  This was a time for silence.  While I would never call Dave, a fool; I am sure he’d agree with the wisdom of Proverbs 17:28:

28 Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent,
and discerning if he holds his tongue.

It helped that Dave didn’t take offense at Frank’s venting.  As Frank’s anger died down, he became easier to talk with.  Now, it was time to speak.  I don’t recall what Dave said or how he responded. It may well be that Dave heeded the advice given in Proverbs 15:1:

1 A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Did you notice the last part of that verse? A harsh comment or response would have just stirred up the fire of Frank’s anger.  I will trust that Dave chose a gentle answer.

Growing up, I have often struggled with anger and am certainly not proud of it. I admired Dave, for how he handled this situation.  It was something that I wanted for myself.  With my Father’s help, I have made considerable progress and yet have some ways to go.

Is it not amazing how the Holy Spirit uses our experiences to teach Scriptural truths?  He can use our own or those of other people.  This includes the stories we read.